If you go to Amazon and do a search on “billionaire domination” you will get 669 book results. If you search on “billionaire BDSM” you get 1,386. If you write a book about a gorgeous, sexy, but wounded and vulnerable billionaire who gets off on “disciplining” women but gets his clock cleaned by a sweet, virginal innocent who submits to him so sweetly that she just melts his iceberg of a heart when she looks at him “that way” when he has her naked, tied up, and paddled raw, you will likely make a fortune. These books are hotter than the scenes in them. Why? Beats me. (Maybe a poor choice of words considering the subject.) I've said it before and I'll say it again, I am totally baffled by why women are gobbling up these books.
Yesterday a guy on Facebook posted a link to an article online written by a man who had some vile things to say about women. The poster said he put it there to generate “discussion.” He agreed with the article and challenged anyone to “dare" to agree as well. After a whole lot of posts telling him how wrong the article was, the poster pitched a hissy-fit and deleted it. The article is a slobbering tirade against women with the author's main premise being that the only women who object to rape are those who are too ugly to be allowed out side. He justifies part of his argument by pointing to the popularity of romance novels. Among many things, he says:
Any moron with the sixth grade reading skills required for a romance novel can tell you this. I’d wager good money there is not a single one of those books that doesn’t have at least one scene with a woman saying “no” ten times, just before opening up like a spring flower and getting stuffed with enough c*** to make Ron Jeremy blush.
In romance novels, that is the preamble to “happily ever after.” Being taken, with some amount of force or another, is the main draw to this genre of writing. Hell, I don’t even really call them Romance Novels. I call them “Bosom Heavers.” Watch a woman read one and you will see why. By the time she gets halfway through one of those “no doesn’t mean jack shit,” scenes, her t*** will look like they have been outfitted with low-rider hydraulics, lifting and dropping sharply with each powerful thrust she is imagining in her mind.
Now, obviously this guy has a lot of problems. As a woman who grew up with three brothers who are about as masculine as it is possible to be but who would be repulsed by such talk, I learned long ago that guys like the author of this article are so filled with anger toward the opposite sex that they have convinced themselves that any man who disagrees with him has been whipped into submission by the “evil feminazies.” That baloney is an easy excuse for someone trying to justify his own pathology. HOWEVER...
I know. There she goes again. When books with titles like “Make Me Beg,” “Everything He Demands,” “Dominate Me,” and titles I can't even print here, sell by the ga-jillions it is pretty hard to make the case that women do NOT want to “get stuffed...” etc. etc. etc. Of course the difference is that, while most women who read these things cannot get enough of them, they would scream bloody murder if they were actually expected to LIVE them. Yes, I know there are people who participate in BDSM lifestyles complete with “safe” words and all that. But I suspect that the majority of women who squirmed and wiggled as they read the 50 Shades book would run like hell if their mate or most recent date suggested living that lifestyle.
There's something peculiar going on in society. On the far-right we have people trying to deny women basic rights – health care, contraception, equal pay, workplace discrimination, and protection from violence. There are idiots saying that “some girls rape easy” and talking about whether rape is legitimate or not. At the very same time we see an unprecedented rise in women gobbling up books about being dominated, disciplined, with the very clear message “if she submits to this abuse sweetly enough she will melt his heart and he will love her forever.” This is something I simply cannot understand but it seems obvious to me that there are no coincidences here. If someone can explain it to me, I'd certainly appreciate it.
Thanks for reading.